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NEW ON THE BEING WELL PODCAST:
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Becoming Self-Confident, Learning Healthy Relationship Skills, and Trusting Yourself: June Mailbag
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"If we enter into relationships, even ones that seem challenging or kind of anxiety-provoking, we can take refuge in our own sincerity and our own interest in other people, and that - just that - will increase the odds of things going well." – Dr. Rick Hanson
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Dr. Rick and Forrest open up the mailbag and answer questions from listeners. They explore how to deal with chronically negative people, managing avoidant tendencies that get in the way of us finding a great relationship, and separating normal desires for support from more problematic ones. They then talk about becoming self-confident and more internally referenced, before closing the episode with a sticky situation involving supporting an aging parent.
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LIVE EVENT THIS WEEKEND:
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The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom
WITH DR. RICK HANSON
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Jesus, Moses, the Buddha, and other great teachers were all born with a brain built essentially like anyone else’s. Then they used their minds to change their brains in ways that changed history.
Join Dr. Hanson for a special 90-minute webinar on Saturday, June 15th, in which he will guide you through meditations for reshaping your brain for greater happiness, love, and wisdom by combining the latest neuroscience with ancient contemplative practices.
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Learn More / Register
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ALSO NEW ON THE BEING WELL PODCAST:
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How to Create a Secure Relationship
WITH ELIZABETH FERREIRA
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Somatic trauma therapist Elizabeth Ferreira joins Forrest to explore how we can create a secure relationship. They talk about the lessons they’ve learned from their relationship, the impact of trauma and prior relationship wounds, and how very different people can make things work. Topics include complex PTSD, how to work through disagreements, changing our model of relationships, and learning how to actually support your partner.
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ASK RICK:
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How can one express, feel, and process "negative" emotions associated with an experience thoroughly and not create and strengthen "negative" neural pathways associated with those experiences at the same time?
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Basically, three things are simultaneously true:
Being with and letting go of an experience – in a mindful way, spacious, disidentified way – does not reinforce it and in fact helps to release it. “A healthy cry” is a beautiful, vastly important thing.
Being identified with our negative reactions and marinating in them reinforces them.
Positive experiences are not “learned” efficiently, so it’s useful to deliberately sustain and internalize them.
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"The points you raise are right at the intersection of key questions in working with trauma: does revisiting the material reinforce it or release it?"
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You can learn how to address negative emotions in a healthy way with my free resources on Negativity and Anger. |
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RICK'S PICKS:
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Roger Federer on Perfection
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