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NEW ON THE BEING WELL PODCAST:
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The Fawn Response: People Pleasing, Self-Abandonment, and Standing Up for Yourself
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"If a child has a parent who did not have healthy psychological development, then child can become a kind of module that the narcissistic or borderline parent needs to feel stable and coherent and not fragmented and vulnerable to catastrophic falling apart. So then the child has the experience of not being regarded as a being in their own right—but as a means to the end of the parents."
– Dr. Rick Hanson
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Dr. Rick and Forrest finish their series on the stress responses with the fawn response, which is an appeasement strategy where we try to manage stressful situations by giving others what they want. Rick and Forrest start by discussing common symptoms, including people pleasing, self-abandonment, difficulty saying no, weak boundaries, and chronic self-sacrifice. They talk about the roots of the fawn response and its connection to complex PTSD before exploring people pleasing in detail. In the second half of the episode they focus on practical tools for developing healthy boundaries, self-acceptance, and a stronger sense of self.
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FREE ONLINE SUMMIT:
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Best of Trauma Super Conference
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If you've experienced trauma, you may want to check out this compilation of over 70 most-watched interviews, from the world’s top experts in trauma. Sign up to watch it for free from July 8-14th.
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ALSO NEW ON THE BEING WELL PODCAST:
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Psychological Defenses: How to Understand (and Change) Your Mind and Behavior
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Psychological defenses are subconscious strategies we use to protect ourselves from uncomfortable emotions, and they exert a hidden power over our behavior. From denial and repression to projection and rationalization, Dr. Rick and Forrest explore how these defenses shape our actions, influence our relationships, and affect our overall well-being.
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ASK RICK:
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You say “When your mind changes, the brain changes.” Can you explain the difference between the mind and the brain?
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I use the word “mind” the way it is essentially used, most of the time, in neuroscience, to refer to the entirety of the information represented within the nervous system. We are surrounded by examples of different materials representing immaterial information: the physical hard drive of your computer stores and operates upon the non-physical information in your documents, music, and pictures; physical sound waves carry the intangible meanings of the words we use; and so on. In the same way, the brain represents, stores, communicates, and transforms the information that comprises the mind. Most of this information is forever outside awareness.
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"In effect, the mind is what the nervous system does, headquartered in the brain."
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UPCOMING POLITICAL EVENT
(Feel free to skip past this section if it doesn't interest you)
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Save Our Democracy
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This is an online program on July 13 with Senator Cory Booker, Tara Brach, Konda Mason, Jon Kabat-Zinn, and others in support of voter turnout in three key swing states this November. I hope you will join me in attending this program, and telling people about it. It’s free, it’s inspiring, and it’s aimed at protecting our fragile democracy.
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RICK'S PICKS:
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Finding Good Within the Difficult
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MindFull of Good is a free newsletter that highlights new and free content from Dr. Rick Hanson and the Being Well Podcast as well as other free offerings to fill yourself up with good.
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