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NEW ON THE BEING WELL PODCAST:
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How to Make the Most of Your 20s
WITH DR. MEG JAY
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"Most growth and change that happens in adulthood happens from 20 to 30, but it doesn't happen sitting at home usually; you've got to get out in the world, interact with experiences, and build skills."
– Dr. Meg Jay
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Twentysomethings are bombarded with misinformation, hype, and contradictory messages that pull them in many different directions. Dr. Meg Jay, a specialist on what she calls the “defining decade,” joins Forrest to explore how we can navigate this transformative and often anxiety-provoking time in our lives.
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Watch/Listen to the Full Episode
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FREE GOOD STUFF FOR:
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Growing Self-Worth and
Self-Compassion
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For many of us, perhaps the hardest thing of all is to believe that we really are good and worthy.
Maybe there’s a critical, dismissive, shaming voice inside that is much louder than the protecting, encouraging inner nurturer. Or, perhaps we regularly abandon our own wants and needs for the wants and needs of others.
But the truth, the fact, is that you are a good person, and your wants and needs matter, too. And you can build up that strength of self-worth and self-compassion inside yourself — check out some of these resources I've gathered to help you do just that.
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ALSO NEW ON THE BEING WELL PODCAST:
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Dealing with Emotionally Immature People (and Parents)
WITH DR. LINDSAY GIBSON
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Dr. Lindsay Gibson joins the podcast to share her groundbreaking work on emotional maturity. Forrest and Dr. Gibson explore how growing up with emotionally immature caregivers can affect our adult relationships, and what we can do to recover from these experiences, build healthier patterns, and disentangle from emotionally immature people.
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Watch/Listen to the Full Episode
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ASK RICK:
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Can “Taking In The Good” help in relationships?
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Yes, studies show that for most people most of the time – each day, week, month, year, and lifetime – they are having many more positive experiences than negative ones. Of course, there are important and sometimes tragic exceptions that need to be acknowledged, too, such as people at home and abroad living in terrible poverty, or with chronic pain or depression. The problem is that the brain has a feature that worked great for survival in the wild, but today functions as a kind of design flaw in terms of quality of life and long-term health: the brain generally lets positive experiences flow through while capturing all the negative ones.
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"This is why “taking in the good” is so important: by staying with positive experiences for a dozen or more seconds in a row, we can capture them and weave them into the fabric of the brain and the self."
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| The noteworthy researcher on marriage, John Gottman, found that happy, lasting couples had at least a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions (and often an even higher ratio), and found that falling below this 5:1 ratio was a major risk factor for eventual divorce. Without getting into numbers, which could be misleading, the key takeaway point is that much research shows that negative experiences are generally more memorable, more reactive to the body, and more consequential in how we feel and see the world. This is true in all time frames, whether a day or a lifetime. Therefore, the practical steps are: (A) bear negative experiences when they happen without getting all negative about them (which just adds negative to negative), (B) help yourself get through a negative experience as gracefully and as a soon as you can, and (C) really cultivate positive
experiences, and when you are having them, really focus on them to take them in.
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FREE ONLINE SUMMIT:
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Preschool Mindfulness Summit 2024
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I’m excited to be a speaker at the 2024 Preschool Mindfulness Summit by MindBe Education! It goes live online from April 27-May 2nd, and I hope you'll join me for free here.
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Learn More
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RICK'S PICKS:
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Finding Mudita: The Crimson Tide's Path to the Final Four
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The Alabama Crimson Tide basketball team tapped into the powerful brain circuitry of mudita - the capacity to feel genuine joy at another's success - leading to an upward spiral of team unity and shared accomplishment on the path to their Final Four debut.
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MindFull of Good is a free newsletter that highlights new and free content from Dr. Rick Hanson and the Being Well Podcast as well as other free offerings to fill yourself up with good.
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