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Dr. Rick Hanson's Occasional Collection of Good, Free Stuff
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NEW ON THE BEING WELL PODCAST:
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Guilt Trips, Boundaries, and Non-Monogamy: November Mailbag |
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"In most cases, contentment is a choice. We can feel content with what we have even as we seek more, even as we recognize the injustices that lead us to have very limited opportunities, let's say in limited conditions, but we can still find a way to feel content in the present rather than discontent and endlessly frustrated."
— DR. RICK HANSON
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Dr. Rick and Forrest open up the mailbag to answer listener questions about effective communication, guilt trips, healthy relationships, and contentment. They explore how defining boundaries, taking maximum reasonable responsibility, and extending an olive branch can help manage ongoing conflict without sacrificing your own needs. They then discuss the power dynamics, ethics, and practicalities of non-monogamy, emphasizing the importance of fairly balancing the rights and needs of
everyone involved. Finally, they explore how to cultivate the habit of contentment, even amidst imperfect circumstances.
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NEW FROM THE WEDNESDAY TALK/MEDITATION:
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Empathy and Engaged Compassion |
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A lot of us feel overwhelmed these days — flooded by other people’s emotions, worn down by the suffering around us, or confused about how to stay open-hearted without burning out. In this week’s teaching, I talk about the real nature of empathy, the sweetness of compassion, and how to stay grounded while engaging with a world that’s hurting. We explore how to be with our own reactions, how to keep our hearts open without collapsing, and how to move from individual healing to collective action that really makes a difference.
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FREE QUIZ
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How Strong is Your
Negativity Bias? |
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Do you replay mistakes, dwell on criticism, or overlook the good in your life? This quick quiz reveals how deeply negativity may be shaping your thoughts, emotions, and daily experience — and how you can start to change it.
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ALSO NEW ON THE BEING WELL PODCAST:
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How to Be Yourself: Authenticity in Relationships with Elizabeth Ferreira |
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Forrest and Elizabeth discuss how to be yourself and get on the same team in a relationship. They explore how conditions of worth, masking, and developmental trauma can get in the way of showing up authentically, and how falling into common relationship roles can reinforce this. Elizabeth talks about how healthy anger can actually be a productive force in a relationship, and how relationships change when both members start prioritizing the other’s wants and needs. Other topics include “dating yourself,” embracing the slightly weirder version of who you are, and celebrating self-exploration.
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ASK RICK:
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When you say to think of someone who loves you, I think it can be quite painful for people who actually can’t think of anyone. Not everyone has someone who truly loves them! |
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I really hear you about the risks in trying to think of someone who loves you. That’s why I try to always speak in broader terms of looking for ways to feel cared about, and usually list five aspects of being cared about: being included, seen, appreciated, liked, or loved. I stress that it is important to look for mild, everyday moments of being cared about in one of these ways, such as your dog wanting to go for a walk with you, coworkers appreciating your idea in a meeting, or a moment of friendliness with someone.
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"In other words, even if someone has not been loved or has been but can’t feel it, there are still many other ways to feel cared about – which is indeed very important to us as the most social species on the planet."
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We need to feel cared about in the psychological sphere as much as we need water in the physiological sphere.
I also suggest that people open to feeling caring, since caring is caring whether it is flowing in or flowing out.
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FREE SUMMIT
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Heal & Restore Experience |
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I’m very inspired to be among the speakers for the FREE upcoming Heal & Restore Experience! This transformative 6-day online event, featuring 62 world-renowned experts, will share their insights, practices, and wisdom on the art of healing and renewal, guiding you towards restoring balance and awakening clarity in your body, mind, and spirit.
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RICK'S PICK:
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Turning Shellfish Waste into Concrete |
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Photo credit: LeftCoast
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This cool community garden in Blackpool, England, has
started using concrete made with crushed seashells to soak up stormwater and prevent flooding, turning waste shells into an eco-friendly solution that helps cut down construction emissions and protect urban spaces.
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MindFull of Good is a free newsletter that highlights new and free content from Dr. Rick Hanson and the Being Well Podcast as well as other free offerings to fill yourself up with good.
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