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MindFull of GOOD |
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Dr. Rick Hanson's Occasional Collection of Good, Free Stuff |
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NEW ON THE BEING WELL PODCAST: |
Why Good People Get Stuck in Bad Relationships |
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"We we want to feel that we're with someone who wishes us well. We want to feel understood. We want to feel that the other people are reliable - that what they say they will do, they will actually do."
— DR. RICK HANSON |
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Dr. Rick and Forrest explore how to exit bad relationships, and why it can be so hard to do just that. Rick talks about how positive traits like empathy, loyalty, and a sense of duty can keep us stuck, and they then discuss common relationship red flags like lovebombing, cycles of idealization and devaluation, power imbalances, and what Forrest calls “the fuzz.” Finally, they talk about how people can increase their chances of a healthy exit. Other topics include developing self-trust, trauma-bonding, shame, and avoiding the cycle of “maybe next time they’ll…” |
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FREE WEBINAR |
What Your Anxiety is Trying to Tell You |
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Anxiety isn't just a nuisance — it often points to unmet needs or old patterns. Join Rick and Forrest on December 16th for a free, LIVE webinar to discover what your anxieties, fears, and worries are signaling and how to change your response.
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NEW FROM THE WEDNESDAY TALK/MEDITATION: |
Thankfulness for What Protects and Nurtures You |
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When life feels shaky, fast-moving, or overwhelming, it’s natural to look for something steady to rest in. And for most people, there actually is a lot that protects and nurtures you every day — it’s just easy to take it for granted.
So this week, I encourage you to really take in the deep nourishment of refuge—the places, people, practices, and inner qualities that help you feel protected, grounded, and replenished. |
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ALSO NEW ON THE BEING WELL PODCAST: |
Dr. Becky on Becoming the Person (and Parent) You Needed |
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Dr. Becky Kennedy joins Forrest for a conversation about building better relationships, with ourselves, our partners, and our children. They talk about Dr. Becky’s framework of “good inside,” and how we can apply it to ourselves. Dr. Becky explains how many of the struggles parents face trace back to their own childhood experiences, and suggests how we can reparent ourselves by learning emotional regulation, working with shame, and becoming sturdier. They also cover the limits of behavioral control models, deeply feeling kids, maintaining boundaries when things get hard, and building connection capital.
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ASK RICK: |
Does mindfulness mean being submissive? What is the difference between allowing someone or something to take advantage of you vs. letting go? |
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When we sustain a mindful awareness of outer events or inner experience, we are actually doing the opposite of submitting to them, in the sense you mean. We are recognizing them as facts – like them or not, they exist – perhaps with a sense of acceptance or serenity, but not letting them control us.
In fact, when we fight with them – like getting angry at having certain thoughts – they are controlling us. And, with the perspective and wisdom that come from awareness and investigation, we can be strong, forceful, even passionate in speaking truth to power – both out there, and (often more importantly) inside our own heads.
What we let go of mainly are our unhelpful, unhappy reactions to things. We don’t let go of recognizing and standing up against injustice, or let go of our legitimate interests.
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"The main things that take advantage of us are our fearful, angry, self-doubting reactions to things." |
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Check out my chapter on kindness and assertiveness in Buddha’s Brain, and see what you think. |
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RICK'S PICK: |
The Results of Guaranteed Income Programs |
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This landmark three-year study of no-strings-attached monthly income found that when people have a bit more steady cash, they tend to use it to meet basic needs, care for others, and slowly build a more livable, meaningful life, rather than simply opting out of work. |
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MindFull of Good is a free newsletter that highlights new and free content from Dr. Rick Hanson and the Being Well Podcast as well as other free offerings to fill yourself up with good. |
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