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Dr. Rick Hanson's Occasional Collection of Good, Free Stuff
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NEW ON THE BEING WELL PODCAST:
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The Self-Abandonment Loop: Shame, Self-Criticism, and How to Break Free |
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"It takes courage to face the dreaded experience. It takes great courage...rather than exile it or alienate ourselves from it in various kinds of ways."
— DR. RICK HANSON
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Why is it so hard for us to do what we actually want to do? In this episode, Forrest explains the hidden structure of self-abandonment: how shame drives the loop, how the loop produces more shame, and how the inner critic uses a “can’t win” situation to keep us stuck. Then he and Dr. Rick explore what actually breaks the cycle, including the role of anger, the difference between shame and grief, self-compassion, and what it really means to get on your own side.
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FREE ONLINE EXPERIENCE:
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One Million Acts of Kindness |
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You may have heard me mention how, drop by drop, we can fill ourselves up with good. The same applies to small acts of kindness doing a lot of good in the world, when we get a lot of people committing to it. And that's the goal of this free initiative from the Global Compassion Coalition, which I hope you'll join!
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NEW FROM THE WEDNESDAY TALK/MEDITATION:
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Wise and Courageous Compassion for Others – and Yourself |
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When we’re hurt, frustrated, or facing difficult people, it’s easy to swing between passivity and hostility—either saying nothing and shrinking back, or getting pulled into anger, righteousness, and reactivity.
In this talk, I explored how to practice a wiser, more courageous form of compassion: one that helps us let go of what burdens the mind, stand up for what matters, and bring both strength and care to other people as well as to ourselves.
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FREE CHALLENGE:
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21 Ways to Feel Good About Yourself |
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For many of us, perhaps the hardest thing of all is to believe that “I am a good person.” If that sounds true to you, I hope you'll check out this free email series to start building up a natural sense of self-worth, confidence, and self-compassion.
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ALSO NEW ON THE BEING WELL PODCAST:
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Trauma in Relationships: What Actually Helps with Elizabeth Ferreira |
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Forrest is joined by associate therapist and his fiancée Elizabeth Ferreira for an honest, personal conversation about what it’s actually like to be in a relationship when one partner is living with trauma, complex PTSD, or another ongoing mental health challenge, and how to navigate the unique challenges of trauma in relationships. Drawing on their experience together, they discuss supporting without enabling, avoiding power imbalances, managing resentment, dealing with moments of frustration, and the importance of reciprocity. Elizabeth has some thoughts about the DSM. Forrest shares about how Elizabeth has
supported him. It’s a good one.
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ASK RICK:
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Having a store of positive implicit memories means your happiness comes from within, making you less affected by external events. Is that right? |
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Exactly right!
People who have not internalized positive experiences and other resources are dependent upon the outside world for the provision of them – or they get stoic or defended and deny their need for such experiences.
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"This is a mistake since they are a universal, human need, as well as the basis for coping and for the strength of mind and heart it takes to stick up for those we love and make this world a better place."
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But if you do take in positive experiences – particularly the ones that are key resources for a history of lacks or wounds (e.g., current experiences of feeling cared about are critically important for healing old experiences of abandonment, rejection, dismissal, loneliness) – then you fill up your own cup and become less dependent on external conditions; in effect, your happiness becomes increasingly unconditional.
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RICK'S PICKS:
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BOOK: Ecocivilization |
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Jeremy Lent is a friend and brilliant thinker I deeply respect. His new book Ecocivilization: Making a World That Works for All lays out a practical, hopeful vision of a civilization rooted in nature, justice, and mutuality and is really worth checking out.
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Better Burma is a courageous grassroots group supporting Myanmar’s path toward peace, justice, and democracy through vital humanitarian aid and advocacy projects, such as these current initiatives.
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My friend Marisa Handler recently wrote this inspiring song
as a reminder that even in these dark times, there is also immense light. I hope you'll check it out!
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MindFull of Good is a free newsletter that highlights new and free content from Dr. Rick Hanson and the Being Well Podcast as well as other free offerings to fill yourself up with good.
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